Love for us is a complicated thing. As a system, it's obviously different from the norm, but there's a little more to it!
The following only applies for Atra and partially Ivy, as Ink and Ambien don't experience romantic or sexual attraction, and are averse to it.
First things first, every single one of us is some form of transgender. (Ink potentially isn't, but nonbinary nonetheless.)
We are not interested in men. Some of us have been in relationships with them. It was not for us. We may flirt, but no real attraction. Ever.
Romantic attraction is a bit more complicated. Some of us experience some form of romantic attraction.
It's not exactly the same, as it feels more akin to something platonic, but stronger.
It is only something that can develop with time, and notably permission from the person they are attracted to.
It's overall a difficult feeling to distinguish, so we don't typically enter relationships unless initiated by the other person.
All of us are some form of asexual. We don't experience sexual attraction, and have no interest in sexual relationships.
Despite that, we do have a sex drive we deal with on our own. It's not something we really enjoy, but it is what it is.
If a person we were in a relationship with wanted to have sex, some would be open to it, but the only pleasure we would get from it is
knowing that we are making them happy.
For those of us who feel anything, we are essentially polyamorous. Monogamy is something that we are okay with, but not the default.
Additionally, we tend to be submissive. There have been times when we have been dominant, but it's not particularly a dynamic we enjoy.
Despite being asexual, we engage heavily with kink. We aim to please, and wish to please with as much of us as possible.
Many of our kinks are derived from that desire to please.
We love to be open and honest about our feelings, and we expect the same in return.
Asking questions and being asked them is an activity we really enjoy.
I (Atra) start off with a baseline of deep trust. If I can't trust you, I can't love you any deeper than friendship.
If you break my trust, it's extremely difficult for me to love you again. Things can never be the same.
No matter how hard I wish I could forgive that. Friendship is still possible, but I can't ever be that close to you again.
I am also incredibly dense. I will not understand that you wish to develop a relationship with me unless you say something akin to
"Do you want to be in a relationship with me?" or "I am interested in you romantically / sexually." Flirting is just flirting
no matter how much I may flirt back. Real attraction is something that has to be explicitly stated. Anything else is just
affection and play.
In summary, let us know if you're interested in any of us. There's extremely little chance we will develop any sort of real attraction to you otherwise.